Nonviolent Confrontation Handout

PART 1

I. CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

A. OVERALL PREVALENCE AND CHARACTERISTICS

• NHSLS (1994): 17% OF FEMALES AND 12 % OF MALES
• BEST ESTIMATE: FINKELHOR (1994): 20-30% OF GIRLS; 16% OF BOYS
• USUALLY A MALE (HETEROSEXUAL) PERPETRATOR

B. ATTITUDES -

HISTORICAL

FREUD

• 1896 LINKED HYSTERIA TO SEXUAL ABUSE
• RETRACTED 1933 WITH SEDUCTION THEORY

C. CURRENT

FANTASY (FREUD) - CHILD IS LYING OR SEDUCTIVE; BLAME MOTHER

II. CONSEQUENCES

DEPENDS ON AGE OF VICTIM,DURATION,TYPE OF SEX

A. MEDICAL -SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS

RISK OF PREGNANCY AND COMPLICATIONS

B. EMOTIONAL

CAN BE TAKEN AS SYMPTOMS OF ABUSE

TWO PERSONALITIES

C. LONG TERM EFFECTS - INTIMACY/TRUST, SELF-ESTEEM, SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION, DRUG ABUSE, ETC.

III. PARENTS: WHAT TO DO IF YOU SUSPECT ABUSE

• GO TO PRIVATE PLACE AND TALK TO CHILD
• BELIEVE CHILD
• REASSURE CHILD/STAY CALM
• CALL PROTECTIVE SERVICES OR POLICE
• OFFER LOVE AND SUPPORT
• PROTECT CHILD'S PRIVACY
• GET SUPPORT FOR YOURSELF
• REMEMBER IT IS NOT YOUR OR YOUR CHILD'S FAULT

I. RAPE AND SEXUAL ASSAULT

RAPE - FORCIBLE PENETRATION OF VAGINA BY PENIS

SEXUAL ASSAULT - INCLUDES ALL ACTS OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE

MOST COMMON - ACQUAINTANCE RAPE (80%)

ONLY ABOUT 16% REPORTED

ABOUT 1/4 TO 1/3 COLLEGE WOMEN HAVE BEEN RAPED

OTHER TYPES: STRANGER RAPE, MARITAL RAPE

 

II. CONTRIBUTING FACTORS

• MEN INTERPRET FRIENDLY BEHAVIORS AS SEXUAL
• MEN MAY FEEL ENTITLED TO SEX
• MALE DOMINATION IS VIEWED AS "SEXY"
• WOMEN ARE BLAMED FOR MALE BEHAVIOR
• LANGUAGE MAKES MALES "INVISIBLE" AS PERPETRATOR

III. IMPACT

A. CRISIS PERIOD

B. RECOVERY

SILENT RAPE REACTION

THE "HUM"

IV. IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS SEXUALLY ASSAULTED

• GET TO SAFE PLACE, CALL HOTLINE
• GO FOR EXAM AT HOSPITAL OR CLINIC, EVEN IF DO NOT WANT TO PRESS CHARGES
• DO NOT WASH OR CHANGE CLOTHES
• TRY TO DESCRIBE RAPIST
• BE PREPARED FOR A PHYSICAL EXAM

V. SELF-DEFENSE (SOME CIRCUMSTANCES)

MUST OVERCOME FEMALE GENDER SOCIALIZATION

NONVIOLENT CONFRONTATION - print handout at top of page top

PART 3

I. SEXUAL HARASSMENT

RECENT CRIME

DEFINITION:

UNWELCOME SEXUAL ADVANCES, REQUESTS FOR SEXUAL FAVORS, AND OTHER VERBAL OR PHYSICAL CONDUCT OF A SEXUAL NATURE WHEN

1. SUBMISSION TO SUCH CONDUCT IS MADE EXPLICITLY OR IMPLICITLY A TERM OR CONDITION OF AN INDIVIDUAL'S EMPLOYMENT

2. SUBMISSION TO OR REJECTION OF SUCH CONDUCT IS USED AS A BASIS FOR EMPLOYMENT DECISIONS AFFECTING SUCH INDIVIDUALS

3. SUCH CONDUCT HAS THE PURPOSE OR EFFECT OF UNREASONABLY INTERFERING WITH AN INDIVIDUAL'S WORK PERFORMANCE OR CREATING AN INTIMIDATING, HOSTILE, OR OFFENSIVE WORKING ENVIRONMENT.

THIRD PARTY EFFECTS ALSO TO BE CONSIDERED

II. PREVALENCE IN WORKPLACE

50% OF WORKING WOMEN

15% OF MEN

HIGHER IN MALE-DOMINATED JOBS

90% EXPERIENCE PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS

III. NONWORKPLACE TYPES OF HARASSMENT

ACADEMIA - TEACHERS AND STUDENTS

THERAPIST - CLIENT RELATIONSHIPS (UNETHICAL AND/OR ILLEGAL)

PHYSICIAN-PATIENT (MISCONDUCT)

CLERGY - LAYPERSON (MISCONDUCT)

IV. IF YOU ARE THE TARGET OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT

• CREATE AND MAINTAIN A CAREFUL RECORD OF INCIDENTS, INCLUDING IMPACT
• RECORD NAMES OF WITNESSES
• POSSIBLY TAPE RECORD CONVERSATIONS
• CHECK CHANNELS WITHIN ORGANIZATIONS
• REPORT TO EQUAL EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITY COMMISSION(EEOC) WITH 180 DAYS OF INCIDENT - DO NOT RELY ON INTERNAL PROCEDURES